In my previous post, I explained the unique energy combination that each person has and reflects outwards. I also mentioned how we find an energy match in people we spend time with. These can be love or friendship relationships or everyday coincidental meeting with other people.
For example, if we are upset and angry we will attract the situations and people with the same type of energy at that moment. We all know those »bad days«.
With our rational mind we can easily pick our preferences when it comes to people we want to share our time. We define those based on appearance, social status, job, common activities, hobbies, the way we think, lifestyle, but we do not pay so much attention to inner vibration which every person has. Now we can understand better the saying »It’s not about the look«.
Our inner energy, vibration is like a beam of rays which consist or subconscious beliefs, our own identity, as I mentioned it already. The base for our vibration comes from our parents and the patterns are usually recognizable in older generations as well. With knowing that we can analyze the dynamic of relationships in our primary family and get to understand ourselves, how we behave, what they taught us and how this reflects on our lives.
Subconsciously we usually create two types of connections with other people:
- We spend our time with people who have a similar beam of rays as our primary family or
- We spend our time with people who have totally opposite beam of rays as our primary family
We pick a similar vibration because it is familiar, safe, well known to us and we pick the opposite energy because we don’t want to experience the same things that we did in our primary environment. We can picture both of these situations as two extremes on the edges of the same stick, but none is optimal for us. We want to move forward to the middle part, balanced relationships that bring peace, love, and understanding.
For example, if we had a controlling, overwhelming parent, who took all the decisions for us, we will pick the same partners or friends. Because we became very resistant to that kind of people we can also pick people that are very indecisive, without their own opinion, so we can take the control this time. Our goal is not any of that, but relationships that are balanced and all the participants are equally considered.
We all carry our own energy »legacy« with ourselves. It’s important to know that we don’t have to consider the relationships we observed as a child as »normal«. They are just one version of countless possibilities how relationships with other people are built. We can always ask ourselves: were those people I saw as a child happy? How did they handle the conflicts? Were emotions expressed in a safe way or with aggression, rage, avoidance? Do we have any better examples of relationships in our lives? What kind of dynamic do they have, can I learn something from them? Find yourself good examples in real life.
Even just noticing that there are other ways in life is a first huge step. We acknowledge that is possible to do it differently. Our next step is to look within, observe our own reactions and thoughts and emotions that come along. We can consciously change our behavior and with that also our energy shifts.
As we focus on our self-growth, we create new, better versions of our energy rays. That reflects on our relationships with other people. That can mean a lot of things and sometimes can be a painful experience. It is possible to improve and upgrade relationships with some people and as our energy, vibration changes we probably won’t match with some other people and we’ll go our own separate ways.
If we can share all the knowledge and understanding written above with people we spend the most of our time with, there’s a big possibility we will help each other to clean the energy »legacy« from our family and update our beams of rays simultaneously. This is the teamwork that transforms friendships into all-time friendships and love relationships into life-long relationships, which we all want so much.